Self-validation; the hidden curse.

From fancy cars and clothes to an Adonis-like physique, many people find themselves searching for happiness through the approval of others.

And for what?

Amongst all of the greatest things available to us in life, is self-validation one of them?

Why does a man spend the equivalent of another mans yearly salary on a gold chain? Does it make him a better person? Does it make him treat others better? Does it make others remember him for how he made them feel?

Isn't the idea of being remembered to leave those on earth a with special feeling when they think of you? Or is it a memory of what you owned or wore?

Why do we need to let the world know how good we are?

A group of girls will quite happily share a photo of themselves online only to sit in the corner seconds after.

Why?

Are people that desperate for others to like them that they will fake their way through life?

When a man is noticed for his impressive physique, is that really enough to cover up the insecurities and body dysmorphia he faces on a daily basis?

Are the countless hours of self-torture through strenuous weight training and force-feeding bland food really worth the approval of others?

It seems strange.

People will always remember you for how you made them feel. Therefore, wouldn't working on social skills and relationship building be the goal of creating meaningful connections in life?

If you spend hours, weeks or months isolated trying to make an image of yourself, what good is that if you can't hold a conversation?

Sure the opposite sex may find you attractive, but will your muscles hide the nervousness you portray due to lack of social exposure?

Of course, is nothing wrong with beauty and making oneself attractive. But if the sole purpose is self-validation, what a pity.

What a pity to the beautiful goddess who doesn't know how to love, how to laugh or how to care for another human.

What a pity to the bodybuilder who doesn't know how to enjoy a feast, a gathering with friends or a night out without stressing over needing 8 hours sleep.

People will do anything for self-validation.

What's the point in traveling to the other side of the world to take a photo and leave within 5 minutes?

Are 'likes' on social media more worthwhile than the moment of yourself in a beautiful place?

If the world rated attraction on how you make people feel, and not how you look, how would things be different?

Would you stress over eye-liner? Would you go into thousands of dollars in debt to buy new clothes to impress others?

You wouldn't repeat the same stories to someone you know, yet you are quick to re-post the same things on social media for likes.

But what is the feeling one achieves from this?

Is the sight of 100 online validations of your shirtless picture worth more than the warm touch of a woman you could love?

Is the sight of 100 online validations of yourself at a party worth more than actually enjoying the time with those around you regardless of what the world thinks?

If a man has 100,000 followers online but online 6 real friends in life, is he better off? Or is the man with 100 loving friends and no online presence happier?

People will also fake themselves online for validation, what a pity.

Your friends will see the ups and down in your life, but why only share the good online? Are you afraid someone on the other side of the world won't validate you?

If the internet died today, what would happen?

Would people socialize a lot more? Would they enjoy moments in travel more?

Or would they find another way to obtain the validation of others?