Further thoughts on my relationship

She never or almost never initiates oral. Hand jobs are shit honestly I can do that better myself.

With her I always wear condoms and always get her to cum before sex begins. So oral without condom is obviously better than sex with a condom. She's not great at oral, sometimes too toothy but in 3 years together she has never made me cum with her mouth and only once or twice with her hand.

Recently she also stopped shaving or getting waxed so it's fairly disgusting down stairs. Giving Oral is worse than before, she stops doing it as she isn't shaved but she doesn't shave and the view of sex is worse.

She suggested marriage today. Sex would only get worse. And one of us would live in a country with a shit job.

Tell the truth.
I prefer her long hair on head. Short or none in bed.
I need her to stop grabbing me uncomfortably.
I need her to accept me as I am and stop criticizing me for small things. In particular to accept the way I choose to dress.

If she wants to get married she needs therapy and we probably both need therapy together couples therapy or whatever.

Read a quote today

If you're tracking how often you have sex (which I am) you're having it too infrequently