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Friends
For a long time now I've worked very hard at making sure I have good friends who are friends for the right reasons. This means I don't have copious amounts of friends; rather, I am selective and cautious with whom I let into that small group of people and I believe those I have around me are people I can rely upon. It can be tough sometimes as there's many people out there I like, but handing trust over to someone is not something I do easily.
I recently had cause to rely on a friend who I've known for many years and while I do not like asking for help I am not too proud to know when I need to.
She came to my aid and together we worked through the situation that would have been complicated and difficult for me to address on my own. I thanked her appropriately financially and, as I'd expected, she told me it was unnecessary however I insisted as she'd given me professional assistance that would ordinarily cost money.
In this case, her direct help was what I needed but in so many cases the help a friend gives isn't as direct - the value in the help they offer comes through the confidence I feel in having them there to help, their support. The emotional support from a friend, and just having that person there is something I value greatly and it's one of the main reasons I keep my friend's group to a small and carefully selected few that I know I can rely upon when I need to and whom I'd offer the same unswerving support to in return.
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I feel the same way. Actually, I only have two really close friends, but I have a few other people I can trust if I need help, and I know they would come to me if the situation were reversed. I think it's much better to have a small group of friends because it builds trust.
Hugs, Becca.💗
Two is a good manageable number and if they're good friends it avoids the potential for complications that come from a larger friends group.
Becca 🌷
Exactly, one of them has been my friend for 29 years, and she is also my representative, so I trust her. And she is a treasure to have as a friend.💗
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Similar situation for me, I don't have dozens of close friends. The friends that I do have, we support each other through everything and are always there for each other. Sometimes I marvel when I see groups of friends out to eat with 8-10 people together. It's rare that I am in a situation like that.
Glad to hear that your friend came to your aid in your recent situation. It's important to have friends like that in your life.
It is rare to have more than a few people in your life who you can turn to for help at any time of the day or night.
I am still in the company of 4 friends with whom I have been hanging out for 40 years.
Besides them, I had two other friends with whom I could share secrets, but as you already know, male-female friendships are complicated and their moving to distant countries and starting families completely alienated us, reducing us to occasional chatting and exchanging photos (without the possibility of mutual help...).
8-10 sounds like far too many for me as well; it's not like I don't have acquaintances, but those I call true friends are few. I'm not sure about others, but I have felt it's quite odd in the past, but the more I see and hear, I think it's the best way to go.
Thank you for your comment, I appreciate that you took the time.
Becca 🌷
I think I recall you mentioning your friends group some time ago, it's quite nice that you've all stayed in contact. I think it's reasonably rare for people to remain friends like that these days.
Becca 🌷
You are right 🙂
I'm looking forward to the weekend.
We arranged a reunion for Saturday evening - it's one of our friends' birthdays.