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How to become more optimistic
One of the biggest challenges people face today is staying optimistic.
We are living in times of big changes and are bombarded daily with bad news; stories that affect us and impact our hope of the goodness of mankind. We can get caught up in the wave of negativity the media showcases. It brings us an unconscious feeling of comfort when we think, “At least that didn’t happen to me, right?”
This is not a positive mindset for coaches. As coaches, we are lucky enough to have the skills available to make other people’s lives better. We have the power to change negativity to positivity, one client at a time. Coaches must go forth into the future with the goal of making our world a place where good news, not bad, is the standard. To achieve this, we must be optimistic about our chances for success. Without optimism, we cannot move forward.
How to train yourself to have an optimistic mindset
The mind functions as a reservoir, and we must learn how to supply this reservoir. Optimism is an attributive style; essentially, a way we attribute meaning to daily events.
When evaluating a fact of life, pessimistic individuals and optimistic individuals will have opposite perspectives from each other.
For a Positive Fact: “I got a raise!”
Optimistic Profile: Everything always works out for me.
Pessimist Profile: My taxes will be even higher now.
For a negative fact: “I lost my house keys.”
Optimistic Profile: I never lose anything, someone probably picked them up for me.
Pessimist Profile: I always forget everything; I am so distracted!
If you find yourself identifying with the pessimist profile, don’t be discouraged. With mental strength and daily training, you will be able to create good in any situation.
Starting with your speech, eliminate negative phrases such as “I can’t”, “I always give up”, or “I am insert negative adjective”. For example, you may have found yourself saying, “I am lazy.” A better way to frame this in your mind is “Today I did not accomplish as much as I wanted to. I will make a list for tomorrow so I can complete all of my tasks!” Additionally, try to avoid complaining at all costs. If you are working with a particularly difficult client, try to view the experience as a positive challenge rather than a negative situation. This will allow you to remain in good spirits and help the client in the most productive way possible.
Another way to train your brain to be more optimistic is by recording positive events in your day, no matter how small. If you lowered the stress level of a nonprofit manager, write that down in your journal. If you pass a particularly beautiful garden, take a picture or make a note. If you have a productive conversation with your team, keep a record of the highlights. By doing this, you will train yourself to focus on the positives around you. And everyday, make sure you keep an open mindset to learning about and practicing optimism. It is not easy, but with hard work and diligence you will be able to remain optimistic in the face of negativity.
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From my own perspective you have done wonderfully well by writing this topic titled optimistic. This is a very great message to people of this great community concerning how they should manage their life.
Girl you're amazing, and with this your positive vibes, you're unstoppable . keep up the good work, we need more of it here.
Thanks @funshee...am so glad am making positive impact , together we can make it here.
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You have said it all, to my little understanding about been optimistic with some step below I guess it will be a little helpful too.
1✓Create Some Positive Mantras
While many of us believe our happiness – or lack thereof – is based on external things, we’re often the ones holding ourselves back. Many of us go through our days feeding ourselves negative messages we may not even be aware of, convincing ourselves we’re “not good enough”, “not clever enough” or “not attractive enough”. To start thinking more positively, you need to change these messages. Try to look out for negative thoughts that pop into your head and replace them with positive messages. Write down these positive mantras and repeat them on a daily basis.
2✓Focus On Your Success
Most of us are happy to acknowledge other people’s successes and accomplishments; however, when it comes to our own, we frequently play them down or ignore them entirely. To start thinking more positively about yourself, you need to regularly remind yourself of what you have – and can – achieve. Stop listening to your inner critic, reflect on your past achievements, and start to really appreciate your success and what you have to offer.
3✓Get A Role Model
If you want to become an optimist, it can help to find yourself a positive role model. Whether it is a colleague, close friend or even a celebrity, think of the most unflappable, cheerful person you can. For the next few weeks, do an experiment and try to take a walk in their shoes. Whenever negativity starts creeping in or you find yourself in a difficult situation, think: “what would (insert name of chosen optimist) do?” Answer honestly, then try to follow suit.
4✓Focus On The Positives
It’s important to remember that it isn’t events themselves that make us unhappy, it is our interpretation and reaction to them, and while you can’t always change events, you can change your response. When negative situations occur, try to reframe them by focusing on the positives or what you can learn from the situation. Maybe you have gained inner strength and resilience, grown closer to a friend through sharing your heartbreak or learned something about yourself. Try your best to focus on what you have learned and gained from your experience rather on than what you have lost.
5✓Don’t Try To Predict The Future
When things don’t go right in life, optimists tend to view each incident as an isolated event, while pessimists often look out for patterns of bad luck and think “if it happened once, it’ll happen again”. However, it is important not to try to predict the future based on what has happened before. Remember that a plan or relationship failing doesn’t make you a failure and just because something disappointing has happened once (or more) it doesn’t mean it will happen again.
6✓Surround Yourself With Positivity
Spending time with negative people who continually see the bad in every situation is a sure-fire way to ensure you continue to feel negative too. To help you stay feeling optimistic, you need to surround yourself with positive people who help you to appreciate the good in situations and in life in general. This also applies to other influence in your life such as music, literature and movies – surround yourself with positive influences and see the effect it has on your state of mind.
7✓Keep A Gratitude Diary
When something negative happens, it never fails to escape our attention. The alarm clock doesn’t go off or your car doesn’t start, leaving you in a foul mood for the rest of the day. However, how often do you stop and notice all those times your alarm clock did go off or your car did start? To change your focus and thinking, make a conscious effort to start reflecting on all the things that go right and that you have to be happy about by keeping a gratitude journal each morning or night, listing all the things you have to be grateful for that day.
8✓Challenge Negative Thoughts
Often our negative thoughts are based on little more than our own fears, doubts and low self-esteem. To help you overcome them, you need to constantly challenge your negative thoughts. Next time you start to feel negative, write down what your feelings are then write down your arguments for and against these thoughts. Ask yourself what’s the evidence that these thoughts are true? What’s the evidence that they are not? You could even try purposely acting the opposite of how you feel and seeing what happens. You may find that your negative predictions don’t come true after all.
9✓Focus On The Solution Rather Than The Problem
Pessimists tend to focus on problems while optimists look for solutions. While it is tempting to dwell on your problems or disappointments, remember that this will not change your situation. The situation may not feel great and it may not seem fair, but what has happened has happened, whether you like it or not. Rather than reflecting on what could have been, let go of regrets and negative thoughts, get proactive and start planning where you can go from here.
10✓Fake It
Optimism isn’t something that comes naturally to all of us, and you may find that it takes time to change your mindset. In the meantime, try putting the action before the feeling and faking a more positive outlook. Studies have found that it is possible to trick yourself into feeling happier by going through the physical motions. So, rather than going with your natural instinct, try smiling and laughing more and speaking in a more positive tone. Acting the way you want to feel will help you on your way to becoming an optimist.
11✓Don’t Dwell On The Past
What is gone is gone, and how you deal with the aftermath is the most important thing. There is no point apportioning blame, either on yourself or others. You have the power to change a situation and move on. It is so easy to say ‘I should have done things differently’ with the benefit of hindsight. However, if bad things have happened, look at tomorrow as exactly what it is — a new day — in which good things can happen, if you let them.
Noted ..thanks
Did you just plagiarize this whole comment? :D
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Thanks for the help.
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I have listed an example below, but there are others. Are your the author of the referenced article?
It looks like you just joined. Let me make this clear. Don't commit plagiarism. If the community can't trust the content is yours, then no one will curate your work.
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Portions of your writing do not appear to be original. Your text appears to originate from the following article that was posted sometime in December 13, 2018: 11 Ways To Become An Optimist
I have listed an example below, but there are others.
Let me make this clear. Don't commit plagiarism. If the community can't trust the content is yours, then no one will curate your work.
Here are a couple of articles you should follow to make your time in the Hive community more enjoyable and profitable:
It looks like you just joined. Is this correct? I listed some articles that may be helpful above. I would avoid plagiarism in the future. @hivewatchers, in my opinion, is a small group monitoring a global blockchain. They're not the only group either.
Yes,am new here...so sorry for the late reply..I won't copy people's write up anymore...never knew is an offence...
Thanks
No problem at all :)