Not wanting relationships we end up wanting them

"We want to keep chasing love, but we don’t actually want to fall into it. We don’t want relationships, we want friends with benefits, we want everything that will give us the illusion of a relationship without an actual relationship. We want the rewards with no risk, we want the payout with no cost. We want to connect enough but not too much, we want to commit a little but not a lot. We take it slow, we see where it goes, we don’t want to label things, we just go with the flow.

We want a placeholder not a person, we want a warm body not a partner. We want someone to eat with while we scroll through our newsfeed. See, what we need to recognize is that the things we truly want, the things that are deeply meaningful, the things that are genuinely fulfilling, all require patience, they all require work, they all require energy. See, the challenge is we all want to be with someone who makes us happy, when what we need to do is be someone who makes us happy." - Jay Shetty