Looking for a Little Perspective

Very good and apt vent. I've just replied on @davemccoy's post as well.
I hope they sort out this RC issue once and for all. As far as I can tell it's only the newbies it's hurting. But it's the newbies we need more of, not less of. They really do seem to have thrown out the baby with the bathwater on this.

Hugs to you - and to @wolfhart and @thedarkhorse and everyone else here who is struggling in real life - the one that counts... Blessings to you and yours with that kitten. They can be a lot of work.

"Fatigue makes cowards of us all." - Winston Churchill

Rest and recharge...so you can charge on.

Namaste, JaiChai

Vent away, and yes there is a lot of playground fighting going on, but the real problem is the in ability for new users to participate. It seems as if steem/steemit/@ned do not want a "Social" network blockchain.

There are a few people trying to help the small users, like @dustbunny, willing to aid in the vote dilemma of lifting dustvotes to the payout threshold of new users, whether it is an outgoing vote or incoming vote, he is adding his vote to make it a rewardable vote. Still even at the $0.020 it is going to take a new user a long time to get to a usable RC level.

It would seem that the original intent of steem.io

Running a rewards-based decentralized social network required new advances in blockchain technology. Steem is a next-generation blockchain, uniquely designed to run real-time applications with near instant, fee-free transactions.

We built Steemit on Steem to show the world the future of the web. We built it to inspire new digital content business models and apps by entrepreneurs and developers.

Source-https://steem.io/

has changed.

If steemit would not help us solve our problems and as well allow the newbies to partake by commenting regularly to get noticed, then we will have to look for other alternative(s).

Lol...you absolutely believe they will have to rest and return?

Life is beautiful :)

I've just kept my head down and plugged away on Steemit. Like you said I don't follow price. That's a losing game. Too much wasted emotional energy.

If I could get a spare hour or 3, I'd write a post to keep my lovelies here

I don’t follow price either, I just like the community. I met wonderful people here and I plan to keep posting and sharing and interacting. Lots of love sending your way my dear @lynncoyle1 💕

I had to go and see the post you linked to and then read yours,
both vents needed to be said, Sadly to many these days are focused on getting all they can and do not care in the least about anyone else

I to have friends and family and even myself dealing with health issues that makes one have a different perspective on what is really important in life

and as for Steemit seeing new users getting frustrated that they can not do much on the platform is going to seriously hurt it and this needs to be fixed ASAP

hi dear... by reading your post i am thinking about myself .. sometimes i feel exhausted sometimes i act weird but life goes on.. we care for those who r really close to our heart thats wht i tld u already and i feel that way... lots of things happening around us and i get tired with the fight between my heart and brain but i survive and i love to b like this. this is part of our life i guess.. fact is we r human and we have to gone through lots of situations but we survive...

i am totally agree wth this new rc mana.. being low sp i also can't comment anytime... hope this will sort out...

i will pray for your friends and everythg will b ok.. keep in touch my friend

I'm struggling with the exact same things. I've been thinking about powering down my latest investment and cut my losses, and back off a little. This place is a mess, and it seems to be getting worse every day...

If things keep going the way they go, I think such a post is really needed :0/

God, that’s a lot to put on any one persons plate. The heart you walk around with must barely fit in your tiny little body. All of it sounds pretty draining. Perhaps a break to recharge yourself and focus on yours and @briancourteau’s journey is just what the doctor ordered. No one would blame you for wanting to quiet your inner circle for bit. Go on, take care of yourself as well as you take care of others- you deserve it. We’ll all be here when you get back and we’ll continue to support you guys in our thoughts, prayers, and posts. ❤️

Seeking for a little perspective.

We can help who we can help. I personally say you have more than a full plate just with Brian, let alone a new kitty. That should be it. End of story. Not that anyone else isn't worthy of your attention. They certainly are. But I would hope that both Wolf and Darkhorse, as well as anyone else, have folks they can rely on to help them get through this, just like I've seen it happen with you more than once.

It's not going to be your fault if all of that doesn't turn out, either. It's going to be the way it is. If you had the ability to do more, you most certainly would. Many of us would. And maybe somebody here will do something. Some things, though, just run their natural course.

I don't know what to tell you about "know it all idiots" and bullies. Get a clue! Educate yourself! Blah, blah, blah. Haejin at least sticks to himself unless provoked. He's content to stay in his own little world. The party in question seems like he's miserable, and misery loves company. They have such a big chip on their shoulder they can't help but to bowl people over when supposedly going after someone else. It's like a reflex. Seek and destroy anyone who may mention me, because it's probably something bad. I've seen it happen where flags came to people who were actually saying good things about them.

Their rep should have stayed nuked. Now, they've got SP, alt accounts and the rep to destroy virtually any account here.

I'm sorry you're having a rough go of it right now. It's been a tough few weeks on Steemit, and real life has been even worse. Steemit comes back eventually, and as long as there are at least a few witnesses running, we'll still be able to post here, even if the price drops to $0.000001. The stuff like wolfhart gets me. I didn't know darkhorse was struggling too. Chicago isn't a great place to have the heater go out.

I've been trying to intentionally be thankful for the things I do have. I spend much too much time focusing on what I don't have, or what's going wrong, so I'm attempting to be more positive and focus on what's going right.

I'm glad you're still around. This place is better for having you here.

The RC issue is a problem. I was bummed that a new person that I found and put in my Pay it Forward group joined the discord but wasn't really keen on the idea of joining cause she can post comments so she can't follow the rules to use the post promotion. It seem that maybe she will be able to cause she got a donation of steem. I do know what you mean about heading about @wolfhart and @thedarkhorse and it bummed me out. Here are two of the nicest people that I have meet here and I can't really do anything right now to help either. It can get you down. Also I am sure dealing with what you see each day with @briancourteau can't be easy. I know that if this starts to feel more like a job than a fun thing to do stepping back or away makes sense. It is not on you to keep this place going and much more important to take care of yourself.

Ah Lynn me aul flower! Chin up . The pesky cat is getting to you! I come on here and write a few posts and stay away from all that shite . Hopefully the RCs will work them self’s out but a few pound invested might sort that out. I’m the other way around really. I find discord totally cut off from everyday life so I’m trying to stay away from that more as opposed to Steemit . People are on it too much and then I think how could you of written that glorious post on what you did today if you were on discord for the last 23 hours. It’s a mad world altogether! Nice post though! 😀

I just need a break I think; and I'm not saying that to make anyone feel badly about sharing their problems with me; it's just the way I am wired.

I feel really sorry about you. I also wish @wolfhart recover from his cancer. For @darkhorse we should help him by supporing him.

What a busy "motherly" @lynncoyle1 😂 I never thought that wolfie and buddy would be such cats that keep you busy to be a peace maker. And you still have time to be a pace maker for everyone here on steemit too. Hope that everything would be stable like steemitblog said. We all have our struggle and nice way to vent out.

Morning lovely @lynncoyle1.

I wish I was close enough to give you a big hug.

I found it interesting to read you post and realise that I have not been particularly upset, or surprised by the RC newbie thing. I have just taken it in my stride and see it as par for the course.

I was never as invested emotionally as others here and, after the Steem cleaners debacle, I took a big step back. I still think that Steem itself and the blockchain are good investments and that's where my focus is now.

I am here because I enjoy engaging with the people who've been on this crazy journey with me and earning Steem Power to do so.

Even before HF20 I'd accepted that Steemit itself might nor survive. Equally something, as yet, unimagined could take it soaring. That seems to be the nature of things.

I don't see it as "real life" versus Steemit. They are both "real life". The only question really is this what you want to be doing right now?

I don't mean in terms of should you go or should you stay. But right now . . . do you want to be reading this comment? If it doesn't feel good then do something else.

Maybe you will want to be here tomorrow or maybe not. you don't have to decide.

Steemit is just another environment we can learn about ourselves and our lives in. And, I feel, it is actually a much easier one than the other challenges in your life you are dealing with right now.

You and Brian are managing your lives beautifully, day to day. Steemit it is a breeze compared to that.

Maybe ask yourself what nourishes you most right now, being away from Steemit, being on Discord, posting, commenting, swimming, walking, reading and on and on.

I sense that putting yourself first is a biggie for you.

Maybe it's time to experiment with that?

Sending you heaps of love, as always. 💙 💛 💜 💚

And from what I’m gathering, 3 hours won’t be tough to secure at this rate.

It is on the to-do list, hopefully tomorrow.

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You present a compelling picture of a woman who desperately needs a respite. I would say a vacation but that's probably not in the cards. And even if you went away on a vacation that is no promise that it would be a mental or emotional vacation. Your thoughts would still travel to the ones you care for.

I don't know what things you enjoy that give you, well, joy. Things that let your mind relax and travel to a different place. Things that fill you back up. Easy to say, maybe hard to do, but taking time for yourself, to do these things, I would start there.

You are one of the beautiful, giving, people here. Please don't become discouraged.

Yes, new users can only make like 3 comments per day, or just 2 post and any comments if they do because this thing of RC. So there is people moving to Weku for many reasons, even resent with Steemit. In any case, reasons are reasons. Also there is good people delegating SP to minnows like myself. Wich is good cause I depend of Steemit most of times.

Too bad for everything that you're happened. Frustation can overflow inside us. And it is really bad. But I think that we need to keep with those that de love and loves us back.

Sorry if I misspell something.

Hmm..just today in the morning I listened to some guided meditation on positivity..I mean..the cancer part is hard to find positive aspects in...but regarding steemit. RC will be fixed sooner or later. At this state it sucks..but dunno, the idea of Steemit is just sooo cool that despite being abused left and right, I still kind of enjoy being here. But yeah, if new users can't interact, that's just plain nonsense...Dunno, I'm just talking to the air here :) Just wanted to pay u a visit as I'm still excited about #payitforward :)

You sound very sad and despondent in your post @lyncoyle1. Not used to hearing you like this. I've been a bit swamped with life myself lately and as such haven't been around much. After reading your post now I'm a little glad that I have been. Throughout my life I have always just felt that we should do what we feel we need for now. I try not to stress too much about the future and focus on what will help me now. Sending you lots of hugs and I hope that sharing your feelings like this has at least helped you to feel a bit better xxx.

I'm sorry you are not getting enough sleep. Sleep makes difficult things much easier to handle, and lack-of-sleep makes everything ten times worse! Hang in there, my friend! Sometimes I need to cry, and I feel so, so sad... but the sun is only behind the clouds for a moment. I'm also sorry that you and your family are going through a tough time. I hope this is a blessing to you this week: My late father suggested that I read this passage many years ago: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Philippians+4%3A4-8&version=NASB (it's Philippians 4:4-8)

My heart bleeds for you Lynn. Simply because I was there. I don't know if it's because of where you are that you want to "save everyone" or if it's a type of escape from reality to focus on the suffering of others and not your own anguish. But you do need to vent. You need to scream. And cry. And smash something - not too valuable and not too big or you'll have a huge expensive mess to clean up. Take a day at a time. I think you and your precious husband are in one of the best places and situations to be for now. I know you treasure every moment. You are stronger than you know. But don't try to be stronger than you are. Wierd. I just swallowed a dictionary instead of a cup of tea. Just know that you are alone. But you aren't! Yes, the BS going on is unneccessary and sad. It disgusts me. But then there is something about really facing the reality of this fragile life that makes only a few of us value what is real and shrug of the petty crap. Be brave. But be weak, when you need to

I think steem is going though a restructuring period. Engagement is down but it is interesting to see the people that are left here; they will be the ones who reap the rewards when the platform gets back on its own feet. Re the newbies we need to have some program that allowed verified newbies to have higher RC.

I took a long break from steemit and came back after the hardfork, didn't even know about it, it was getting frustrating , I say that to say this, taking a break isn't a bad idea. There are many wonderful people hear indeed, the feel of socializing here is different from other platforms. It's sad that its going through this
phase where new comers can't even respond to their own post. I do hope steemit sorts itself out because we still have a good thing going, Just need to work out the bugs that were created

Not to speak to the rest of your concerns, but don't worry about me. I solve problems as they come at me. Already raised over 3k towards my boiler selling a little inventory. Applied and was approved for a couple credit cards that will cover most of the rest of it. Just need to raise another grand or so by the install date and then figure out how to make the extra monthly payment...but that will just serve as a little fire under my ass to keep me motivated.

Honestly the only thing I need right now is some warm weather until Oct 30th. Since I can't control the weather it's not something I'll stress about.

Didn't even have to ask to borrow money from any family. Have some who could and would help, but this is my mess not anybody else's to deal with....nor worry about. Appreciate your concern, but I've got it covered.

No problem in venting Lynn. Everyone needs to and especially someone in your position. Hope Brian is doing okay ?.

Always in my thoughts. Take care. A full one of course :)

I haven’t been drawn into any nonsense on here so I haven’t realized there was any going on. Other than the typical spamming and intermittent grouchy cat accounts. I just do my thing and steer clear of the drama.

Thanks for sharing. Do you.

Oh wow! I was quite oblivious to a lots of the internal issues, thanks shedding some light on all of it, of course you should focus on Brian, yourself and kitty :)
lots of love!

Fair enough @maxijgcomm; I'm seeing plenty of them out there :)

I'll keep my eye out for it :)

:)

Some of my thoughts are discussed here, and specifically in @trafalgar's comment:

https://steemit.com/steem/@kevinwong/understanding-steem-s-economic-flaw-its-effects-on-the-network-and-how-to-fix-it

SMTs and Good Person Tokens will solve this - Problematic View
Maybe. Don't get me wrong, I think SMTs are great. But they're 6 months away and in reality, it'll take far longer for any of them to garner sufficient market confidence to really play a role in the content discovery process. The use of Oracles also impose very high practical cost and a lot can go wrong in reality. Basically they're very far off and a lot needs to go right for them to work effectively. Something like n^1.3, 10% free downvotes and 50% curation is just a lot more direct and simpler and easier to implement. Ultimately we need the Steem base token to have a functional reward distribution too, not just SMTs, which are a big If.

I'm not sure if the last sentence needs to be true for the Steem blockchain to survive.

Could STEEM be valued at 1 cent and and a Good Person Token, backed by strong Oracles, worth 10$?

If this was possible, blogging 'here' and not on a site using this SMT would be pointless for reward purposes.

The GPT could enforce rules such as 1-person-1-account (time consuming and not bullet proof), alongside a disabled vote for self 'feature', which could be interesting.

You can understand why i've not made a post yet, it's confusing my brain. Oh, and @steemmonsters! :D

I checked your page ... it's totally steemmonsters :)

Thank you so much @viking-ventures; although I didn't respond immediately, I've come back to these comments, yours included, and they've helped me through the 'dark times'. It really does mean a lot to me :)

Thank you so very much @starjewel! Your comment really helped me, along with other here, over the last few days of my wallowing :)

That's normally what I do @steven-patrick, but I guess there was just too much going on that I let it all get to me. I'm taking this to heart and going back to it! Thank you :)

Thank you @tattoodjay, and I'm sorry to hear about your friends and family suffering as well. It's life I guess. I really do appreciate the comment (yours and others here); I read them a few days ago and they really did help me!

Thank you so much @priyanarc! It's so true, and I just needed a few days to mull through it all :)

Thank you Glen, I appreciate that very much. It's been a rough few days, but the clouds have again parted, and the sun is shining. I'm going back to simply doing what I do and ignoring all the nonsense. It's a lot easier that way :)

Thank you as well for all the upvotes on this page ... it didn't go unnoticed by me :)

Thank you so very much @gillianpearce!! I sure could have used a hug several times over the last few days :) Things are looking up now and I want you to know that your comment really helped. I read it and re-read it several times; it's exactly what I needed to hear (more than once apparently :). A few times I went to sit at my laptop and thought, do I really want to be doing this right now?, and the answer was a resounding NO, so I closed it, and went to garden or read or swim. It's been a really nice break.

I'm going back to just doing what I do and not getting involved in the BS. Like what I used to do. You're so right, this is just another environment where "we can learn about ourselves". And besides, I live in way too beautiful a place to be cooped up on my laptop all of the time :)

Brian and I also sorted a few things out this week that needed sorting, so to speak. There's sure a lot of "learning as you go" when it comes to his health and how we sort through it all.

Anyway, the sun is shining again, literally and figuratively, so I'm back ... only when I actually want to be here.

Thank you so much @gillianpearce. I sure hope that one day we have the opportunity to meet in in person. <3

Are you getting excited for steemfest yet? :)

So do you still feel that way? I see that steemmonsters' battles have begun, although I'm not getting involved with it all :) I needed a few days away, to put things all in perspective, and now that I've done that, I'm only going to do what I want, when I want here :) And not get involved in the nonsense :)

I want you to know that your comment really helped.

I'm so glad @lynncoyle1. That warms my heart to hear.

A few times I went to sit at my laptop and thought, do I really want to be doing this right now?, and the answer was a resounding NO, so I closed it, and went to garden or read or swim.

And I'm so impressed that you were able to do that. This is one of those cases "you teach best what you must need to learn" I think. 😂

The last three nights have seen me on the computer and going to bed past midnight again which is way too late for me to sleep well. 😁

Brian and I also sorted a few things out this week that needed sorting, so to speak

That's wonderful to hear.

I have a lot of things that I keep putting off that I need to sort out too and have arranged to meet with a friend tomorrow so we can tackle stuff in each other's company. I won't get through all of it but it will be a start.

Are you getting excited for steemfest yet?

No. But I'm not "worried" about it either, which I was at one point.

I had this picture of myself, standing on my own, feeling uncomfortable and having to make small talk to make the feeling go away.

When I told a friend about it she said "you'll have the time of your life". So i said right. Just to prove you wrong I'm going to send you selfies of myself, all alone with the text "am I having the time of my life yet?".

And that shifted something and I decided that even if I spent the whole 5 days on my own so what. I have plenty of people I can text and have a laugh with who will be there with me in spirit anyway. And who will be there when I come home no matter what.

So now I've shifted into this place of just trying to stay open to all of it, the fun, the discomfort the . . . who knows?

Now it's a bit of a game. How much can I do what I want to do without being influenced by what others may think of me. How comfortable can I be without being one of the "in" crowd. I've always been a bit of an outlier but I'm not always comfortable with that.

So like I was saying with regard Steemit, Steemfest will be just another environment to practise being OK with what's going on.

OMG. Sometimes I crack myself up. That's such an easy thing to say and a whole 'nother ball game to do. We shall see . . . 😂

I sure hope that one day we have the opportunity to meet in in person.

Me too. 💙 💛 💜 💚

Smart idea.
I've been so busy with the Redfish Rocket contest that I haven't had time to get involved in nonsense, or even think about them (except for one comment thread this morning, lol).
I'm trying to focus on the good things instead of the not-so-good things, but since I'm a 'the glass is half empty'-kind of person, thzat's not always easy.

But at least I locked away my thoughts about powering down. Too many good people here , ... and playing steemmonsters is way too much fun ;0)

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Dang it! I was trying to sneak those by you. :)

I figure each one of us can try to be there for the other, because inevitably, we all need something. Not sure what I said that you wouldn't already know, but then it helps sometimes to hear/read someone else saying it. Doesn't make things any easier.

I'm glad to hear the sun is shining, literally hopefully as well as figuratively. Dave's been going after it lately so there's bound to be more drama coming. There's some changes taking place next week with another patch. They're claiming it's going to help lower SP. We'll see. I'm not convinced, but I'm not a dev, so even if STEEM seems to be the land of unintended consequences, maybe adjusting the RCs the way they're doing it will actually be for the best.

Oh @lynncoyle1 I would like you to feel better. Empats sometimes have a very hard time, but they can also have a great impact on people in their surroundings. Don't forget about it and remember that the weakest moments in our lives tell us the most about us. And you are a strong person with a big heart, so you are also an inspiration for others. But I think you need to take care of yourself first in order to have the strength to support others. I wish you a good rest and, as always, I send you only good vibes just like for briancourteau, wolfhart and thedarkhorse.

I already read the blog but didnt comment. Its me in the blog Thats sort of strange to read. I needed to take time and process that My griend felt the Same. Wrote her honest blog and struck me in My inner inner Being. It frigthened me. ( a bit ) but its true but dear dear @lynncoyle we ( read lovely females ) want to Protect, care, nurture, love and educate and sometimes Thats to much on the plate of the day. It Will be ok, Steemit is changing but dont gove up know, take some screentime off and See the love inside these comments ( talking about engagers and how many characters were typed here 😉 ) so for me after All the Nice Words above the only thing to do is ...... give you a http://u.getemoji.me/c3DMsPnF7q6NL87X.gif
Health is something Thats unfair like with the three heros mentioned have faith Thats the only thing remaining and time Will tell.
Love from Holland
Britt

Hi Lynn! This post is few days ago so I hope you had breathe in and out, and calmed down.

I have seen the "wars", or at least some of it, going on here in Steemit because of the HF20 effect. I felt really awful when I was suddenly and totally muted because of RC limitation. For as much as I want to join the rally because of my frustration, I have to reconsider if it is worth worrying about something that is out of my control or should I need to focus on more important things. As I mentioned on one of my posts,

No one may admit it but RC implementation is a way to force people to put their money into the system. That is the unspoken strategy of capitalists.

It is business after all. And if anyone couldn't put up with that, I guess the message is clear unless they do something about the RC limitation.

While we do our best to somehow help those who have problems, it is not being greedy to take care of "ourselves" first. In your case, "yourself" certainly includes Brian. As they say, first things first or you'll get drowned in trying to juggle everything.

I won't put anymore of a drama. You have my prayers for Brian and best wishes for you.

Maybe I can delegate some SP to the new user! I don't know if that helps. Not on a large scale, but a little.

I'm with you!!! I'm SUCH an empath!!!!!!

To the point where it can be detrimental to myself. Sounds like you have a similar problem.

But I'm proud of you for knowing when to take a break because you recognize that you deserve to take care of yourself, too.

That's always a good step to take. And can be hard for empaths to do.

I'm learning how to not take on other people's burderns...

...but I still do it.

I'm trying to figure out the balance between helping others in need...

Which is something I strongly believe in...

And taking care of myself and learning when I have to say "no" or can't take other people's burdens on to a certain extent.

It can be overwhelming... because like you said...there is so much pain everywhere we look!

In the real world. On steemit.

Man, I went to an orphanage the other week and got overwhelmed because I wanted to help all 90 kids there!

Which, is impossible. At the moment. Maybe someday I will be able to help many people.

For now, I can just impact a few.

And then, take the rest of the time to take care of myself so I can help others.

I hope you get some rest!!! Cats can really ruin your sleep!!! Just like babies lol

I had a cat fall through ny ceiling a few months ago and it landed on my bed. It was early morning. Hahaha not a way I thought a cat would ever wake me up.

Get some sleep if you can.

I'm going to go read about problems with Brian soon. I haven't come across him yet. But I like reading your stuff.

For now, I better get off of steemit and do my actual work.

Hang in there!!!!

I know that all of your steemit friends appreciate your love and support. Your impacting them and helping them just by listening and caring @lynncoyle1

So this is a rough patch, a really rough patch. What do we do when that happens? Take a breath. Take care of the kitten. That will make you feel good, because you're actually making a difference. Yesterday I upvoted someone who is a 25, twice. Miraculously the reputation went up to 26 and then 27. I don't really understand how Steemit works, but that felt good.
Maybe one thing we can all do is look for those 25s and give a little lift. I may be confused about the system here. But I'm a modest person. If I can make just a little dent in all the bad things that happen, well, then I've had a worthwhile day.
I wish you peace. Have fun with the cats.

It means even more that you were trying to sneak them by me :) Thank you Glen. Really. I mean that! And you're right; of all the comments I've read here, including yours, none of them are "news" to me, but they sure have made me feel better, just knowing that others understand and care.

I've decided to go back to sticking my head in the sand, doing what I do, and smiling the whole time ... simply oblivious to it all. Sounds a bit like being senile, doesn't it? haha

hahaha this message made me smile. You may be just my all time favorite wall flower haha. Send me messages if you're standing my yourself, so you can at least look like your really busy and totally planned the lull in your 'socialness' :)

And I'm so impressed that you were able to do that. This is one of those cases "you teach best what you must need to learn" I think. 😂

Another smile!! Shut that laptop if you want to! Actually, when I did that, it was a bit like the feeling when I learned how to say "no" in my 30's! No, I can't make anything for the bake sale! ... and no need to come up with a million excuses either :) Just say 'no', although I think that slogan was meant for something else haha

Well little miss doom and gloom, I for one am glad that you're stickin' around :) I'm back to unicorns and rainbows, except for the occasional times I see myself slaying a unicorn, and enjoying it, it's all good :)

Thanks as always for your caring and support; it really does mean a lot! <3

So glad to hear that you sorted yourself out ... and your boiler. In hindsight, it was more of a feeling of, what else can happen?, and true to form, I received terrible news from a good friend early this morning, but at the same time, I saw this, and it made me realize that life is full of good and bad ... just gotta deal with it all :)

Send me messages if you're standing my yourself

I would do @lynncoyle1 except I don't have discord on my phone. It would be handy to have sympathisers in various time zones though.

So far, the likely candidates are all in Europe so I'm not covered if the group moves off to a late night haunt and, in a moment of madness, I decide to join them.

Better to practice going to bed early I think. I'm pretty rubbish at the moment but I've got enough time to improve by the time I get to Krakow. 😂

Thank you so very much @puravidaville! I'm back to being ok with everything; that is life after all ... a little good, a little bad, and a lot in between :) Thank you so much for your support and understanding though :) You and @dandays really are awesome!

Thank you so much @bashadow! I always appreciate your support and perspective, and I have to say, being away for a few days gave me the break I really needed. Things will continue to be whatever they are here, but I'm going back to seeing the "bad" but focusing on the good instead :) Thank you again!

Thank you so much @themanwithnoname! I think I needed a break from everything and am feeling a lot better now. Like you, I'm trying to focus on the good, and on what I do have. Thedarkhorse figured his stuff out, but check out my reply to him here. I think it will make you smile.

Thank you as always for your caring and support. I can't tell you how many times I went to the comments on this post and just read them (over the last few days). They were all very helpful, yours included!

Thank you so much for your kind words and support @stever82; I really do appreciate it! I'm back to "normal" after taking a few days off of here ... I've always done the same as you, if it feels like work, step back. I guess I just forgot about that for a while :) Thanks again buddy!!

Awww thank you so much @blanchy! My chin is back up exactly where it's meant to be. You know something? I've always ignored all the playground shite on here, but for a million different reasons, I let it start to bug me. And I do feel the same way as you about discord, and don't spend much time there either. I'm going back to smiling and spreading a little (what??!) love around here lol The rest of it can just ... well, you know :)

Thanks so much for your support, and I can totally hear the Irish in that "aul flower" bit. Thank you. Random: my best friend growing up was Irish (she still is in fact:), and they had a big house with an intercom system built into it. Charlie, the dad, got tired of yelling and no one hearing haha, especially Shane, the brother. My favorit-ist memory is the day the intercom/Charlie screamed, Shane ye feckin' cunte, get up here!! :)

Oh yeah, I came from a good Catholic family where my parents wouldn't say shite if their mouths were full of it :)

ahhh good times :)

Thank you somuch @mmunited! I took a nice break and got my head back on straight :) Life is full of good and bad, and we just have to deal with all of it :) I really do appreciate your support though! Thank you again :)

Thank you so much @dipoabasch! Life goes on right?! I just needed to take a little break from here for a bit, but the 'sun is shining' again :) Thanks for the support though; it really does mean a lot :)

That Churchill sure was a smarty pants, wasn't he?!

I'm back @jaichai :) Thank you so much for your support too. I stayed away from steemit for a few days, however, I did come back and read the comments on this post several times; they helped immensely, yours included :)

Thank you so much @donna-metcalfe! I took a break from steemit, wallowed a bit in my sadness, went swimming, read books, went for walks, cooked new things, listened to music, and danced with my cat on the patio haha That's true actually :) I stayed away from steemit, except to come back and read all of these comments...several times; yours and everyone's here really made a huge difference.

I'm back; I'm good. The clouds have parted and the sun is shining again. Thank you again @donna-metcalfe! Your support means a lot to me :)

With such kind words @seifiro, I don't care at all about any spelling mistakes! :) I needed a few days away, but am feeling so much better, thanks in part to all of the very nice comments left for me here ... yours included! :)

Thanks for the offer @dandays, but I simply stayed clear of pretty much everything here, except these comments ... such kind thoughts, words, prayers etc from so many. Warms the heart. <3

Thank you so much @jusipassetti! It's not like me at all, is it??!! I had to walk away from everything for a few days and wallow a bit, but also do a lot of things that I haven't been doing...gardening, swimming, reading...and I feel a lot better now. I stayed away from steemit, but read and re-read all of these comments, yours included, and I have to say they were all very helpful. Thank you so much for caring <3 .. and for the hugs! :)

Thank you so much @buysoaphere :) I needed a few days away to wallow and then do the things that make me happy, like gardening, swimming, reading, and of course reading and re-reading these comments. They really did help, yours included! Thank you so much for caring, and the passage is a good one :)

Thank you so very much @buckaroo! Your comment made me cry, but only because you really do understand, which selfishly makes me feel good, but also makes me so sad because you do understand. I spent the last few days crying, screaming, smiling, swimming, gardening, reading, laughing, crying some more ... you know the drill. But basically, I did only those things that I wanted to. I stayed away from steemit, except to read and re-read all of these comments, and I realized that there's so much good here, and that is what I'm going back to focusing on. The rest is drivel and I refuse to participate in it.

Funny enough, it's been monsoon-like weather today, but in my mind's eye, the clouds have parted and the sun is shining, thanks in part to you. So thank you, which doesn't sound like enough, but really, thank you! :) <3

Thank you @intrepidphotos, I agree! I see that there are some bigger folks who are willing to help out the newbies and their RC problems,but yes, there needs to be something bigger in the works for sure. I appreciate your support though, very much :)

Thank you so much @theluvbug! Just when I needed a little luv, you were here :) <3

awww thank you so much @brittandjosie, and I'm sending some love right back to you! We women sometimes take on a lot, but to me, life would be empty if I wasn't able to love and help and take care of people and animals and things :)

I took a good break from here and only popped in to read and re-read all of these messages because they were all so kind and very helpful. I was reminded of a few things that I've always done, but somehow lost track of: take care of myself so I can take care of others. I spent a lot of time swimming, enjoying outside, reading, gardening, cooking, all of those things that I love; and that I'm doing steemit for fun, and when it becomes work or frustrating, it's time for me to close my laptop for a few days!

The dark clouds have parted and the sun is shining in my head again :) I'm back! Thank you so much for being a part of that :) <3

Thank you so much @see-it-feel-it! I took a few days to re-charge, do the things I love, and just to be. I did come back here to read and re-read these messages, and it helped me to remember that there is so much good on here; I just need to go back to ignoring the nonsense, because it will always be here too :)

The clouds have parted and the sun is shining again. Life is full of good, bad and everything in between, and yes, the way we deal with the "bad" says a lot about our character.

Thank you for your support and caring! I really appreciate it <3

All of those things sound fantastic! (I have done cat-dancing, which my cat will only accept for a short while!)
The thing is we all have down days but thankfully we call fill back up just as you did. Then we stand ready to do our needed things and lift up others again. You set us a good example!

Oblivious is a good way to be buddy :) That's what I'm going back to! I'm going to continue to focus on the positives and ignore all the rest of it!

Thank you so much for caring! It means a lot <3

I just do my thing and steer clear of the drama.

That's what I've always done, and what I plan to do in the future :) There's so many positive things going on here and so many kind and caring people, that I just don't need to deal with "the rest" of it!

Thank you so much for the support @coldsteem :)

Thank you so much @robertandrew! Brian is doing okay; just really tired and not much energy, but I think it was hearing about wolfhart's cancer diagnosis, that it just brings everything in our own lives to the forefront. If that makes any sense at all.

I appreciate your support and caring as always though; really! I stayed away from steemit for the week, except to read and re-read these comments, which were all very helpful. So thank you <3

life is full of good and bad, we need to focus and dwell on the good while letting the bad happen and moving on from it. If you approach it any other way life can kick your ass pretty hard.

Always. Plug me in. Shoot me a line over there next time you think about it so I know where you’re at.

I Made alot of mistakes earlier in the comment must not been awake 100% I think 😂 know what we need to do more SAY NOOOOOOOOOOOO

I'm glad you got a much-needed break from all this. Good to hear that darkhorse got the heater situation figured out for now. And that picture is cute! I like seeing the car just sleeping right next to Brian.

hey, if you need help, just let me know. I'm only a comment or Discord message away.

Me too, in spite of the fact that I'm still slaying too many unicorns. If I keep it up, they will become an endangeroud species, lol.

And I keep trying to find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, and can't find it, until I realize that it's people like you that are worth more than a pot of gold.

There's no way in the world I'd just give up on all the amazing people that I met here...

There probably needs to be some obliviousness—enough to stay happy rather than run down by it all. I'd say there needs to be some awareness, though. And if there was something to do about it, well, do it. As it is, unless people are ganging up to do it, there's not much one person is going to affect here. It's like herding cats. Oh, right. Shhhhh. Sorry. No cat talk right now. :)

Welcome back my friend! It’s really our pleasure :) We enjoy following your journey, it keeps many things in perspective.

I don’t know why but I have this overwhelming feeling to link Journey right here. Who doesn’t love Journey right?!?

I'm glad to hear it from you! <3 Take your time and don't worry about nonsense.
Wherever there is a lot of people there is nonsense. Everyone works on their own smal plot, which later often does not fit into one big plan. But we cannot blame people either. We simply have to agree that we are imperfect.
Lots of love!

I completely agree @dmilliz! I just needed a little time away to see it all clearly :) Thank you for your support!

By the way, @lynncoyle1. Do you perhaps know what happened to Fast-Reply. I failed to reply to a lot of coments these last couple of days, and now I don't know where to begin. I could really use Fast-Replh right now :0)

Say hi to Brian for me (and of course 'hi' 2u2, and a big hug for wolfie)

I feel the same damn way, but my laptop died for good this time, and I'm using Brians. I had Fast-reply bookmarked but have no idea how to get back to it :(

@jaynie, do you still use Fast-Reply?

thanks for a good post and discussion.
glad to see a lot of concerned people here who does care.

my own thoughts were pretty similar since I've resumed my own participation on Steemit which has coincided with latest changes (after HF20)

I've also felt the similar way "things are falling apart", but then found some posts by people like @davemccoy, @simplymike and quite a few others, read some discussions and shared my own thoughts too.

so, now I feel that as long as there continue to be people who does care and make efforts to support others, especially newbies - there is a good chance for Change! :)

Let's hope so, @vimuktu-ananda

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Thank you @donna-metcalfe! And the fact that your cat allows you to take him dancing, even for a short period of time, is such a nice reflection on you :)

gonna do it right now :)

So true @vimukti-ananda :) I needed a bit of time to sort a few things out, but now everything is back in perspective!

Thank you so much for commenting :)

Ditto, eh?

YW! 😃

Please keep speaking out what you feel is right and true!

I hear you both and all other wonderful folks who added their support to you.

So, it is still there, all around ! 🙌

Every time I look up, every time I look down
No one's on a common ground
And if you never speak Truth then you never know how Love sounds
And if you never know Love then you never know God, wow
Where's the Love y'all? I don't, I don't know
Where's the Truth y'all? I don't know
...
Love is the key
Love is the answer
Love is the solution
They don't want us to love
Love is powerful
(Where's the love)
...
What happened to the love and the values of humanity?
What happened to the love and the fairness and equality?
Instead of spreading love we're spreading animosity
Lack of understanding leading us away from unity
...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpYeekQkAdc

Thank you :)

Couldn't have said it better myself! :)

Thank you!