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Fernanda Powers

@wiser

Roman Catholic wife, mother, director of religious education, therapy geek and client

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 14, 2024, 1:00 PM UTC

Should I be as suspicious about my therapist's boundaries as I am? My therapist extended our sessions way past 50 minutes, and tells me I can reach out to them anytime about anything, says they like talking to me, and tells me personally stories.

I would agree with you that you have reason to be concerned. Therapeutic boundaries are essential to therapy, as in without them the engagement with the therapist not only does not accomplish the hea…

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 13, 2024, 1:01 PM UTC

Question about therapy homework

My T wants me to bring childhood pictures into session. He seems to find it very important, I'm feeling really reluctant and uncomfortable with it and am leaning towards 'no'. Have you ever refused h…

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 12, 2024, 1:00 PM UTC

Is it wrong to ask my therapist about his politics? I get on great with him but if he was a right-wing/Trump voter I would terminate. Some of his Twitter posts are worrying (he supported Dave Chappelle during the trans debacle)?

I think a more productive conversation to have with your therapist than vetting his particular politics would be to explore with him this idea that a certain viewpoint or set of opinions about anythi…

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 11, 2024, 1:00 PM UTC

Question about how therapeutic relationship works

Do you feel expendable in therapy? Is this feeling relevant, in terms of past relationships, in your life? What are some ways, addressing this, in therapy? Labeling the feelings, going back, in time……

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 10, 2024, 1:01 PM UTC

Have you ever diagnosed yourself with a mental health condition and then shared it with your therapist? Were you right? Was the discussion with your therapist helpful for your healing?

I actually did this. I came across a post on Quora that was about some aspect of how therapy clients with borderline personality disorder often behave. The comment thread highlighted where the contro…

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 9, 2024, 1:00 PM UTC

Question about different therapy philosophies

Some confusing terminology.. in what ways is long term psychodynamic therapy different from a relational type of therapy? Maybe, in certain important aspects, they are one in the same? Possibly, cert…

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 8, 2024, 1:00 PM UTC

Your honesty, in therapy.. on a scale of one to ten, how much are you sharing? Are you more vulnerable, than previously? Possibly, certain things, still hidden.. do you imagine a time, your honesty, at number 10?

I’m pretty close to 10 I think. In recent months I’ve become very honest… and quite unfiltered. I tell M pretty much anything, and I don’t hold back on any given topic. I do have to prioritize based…

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 7, 2024, 1:01 PM UTC

A question about sharing a therapist with a friend

Am I out of line? I referred my best friend of over 20 years to my therapist a few months ago. My friend then suddenly cut me out of their life with no warning or explanation. I have been struggling…

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 6, 2024, 1:00 PM UTC

In your therapeutic alliance, what are your core issues, your repertoire of feelings?

Two words: attachment wounding. We could also call it relational trauma, or complex post traumatic stress disorder. We could even call it borderline personality disorder, the high functioning variety…

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Fernanda Powers
@wiser May 5, 2024, 1:00 PM UTC

Why, while telling my therapist about a traumatic event, she tells me it sounds like you’re reading from a textbook as if you’re not talking about yourself? What does that mean?

Maybe your therapist isn’t as well versed on how trauma typically comes out, especially the first time someone tells their story? If this is the first time you’ve ever shared about this particular tr…

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